Over the last week or so, I’ve had a few conversations about men shying away from what society has dubbed as an Independent Woman. You know the kind of lady that seems to have it all: Beauty, Brains and her OWN Baller’s Budget!
Just last week, Mr. Deion-Prime-Time-Sanders was rumored to have served his lovely wife of 12 years, Pilar Sanders divorce papers stating the following as his reason for the divorce: “Enough is enough. I never signed up for all this. Enough is enough. If I wanted a model or a television star I would have married one a long time ago. All I wanted was a housewife.” Since this news broke, Deion has denied this statement as well as their divorce. But Pilar’s twitter outbursts tell a different story….
Putting all of the Sanders gossip aside, one thing that troubled me the most about hearing this initial rumor is that there are situations where a man has rejected his woman because he felt she was getting a little too ‘independent’ for him. Based on some of my twitter discussions, there are women who are constantly being told that they don’t need a man because they are successful. Now, I’m not sure if these men are a part of the itty bitty little man committee but that is absolutely absurd. The irony in this whole thought process is that if you needed them financially then you’d be a gold digger, MEN!
Listen up ladies, if a man feels that he can’t be in a serious relationship with you because he feels you don’t NEED him then look at that as God’s way of advising you that he is not the one! It is that man’s loss and your gain for rejecting you. If that man can’t see the value in building a successful life together then he is definitely not worth your time or energy. Embrace who you are as a person and know your self-worth. Don’t let anyone de-value you because of their ignorance!
The last time I checked, two incomes are a lot better than one!
And for the fellows who are confused about what an Independent Woman is, let me leave you with a little Ne-Yo to help you out:
After two weeks of high-powered, history-setting NFL action, last night the league presented us with one of the MOST boring Monday Night Football Game I’ve ever seen in my 20+ years of watching. I swear I got more entertainment out of Rapper Fabolous and R&B singer RayJ’s R&Beef Boxing After Dark post press conference. I could have sworn pre-season was over!
The NY Giants offense looked as if they had never quite played together before while the St. Louis Rams looked pretty much depleted on both sides of the field. However, it did give me some great material to share with my twitter family!
Even though the game gave me nothing interesting to notice in real-time, I did discover the best highlight of the night while watching SportsCenter the next morning. NY Giant Deon Grant beating his teammate Jacquian Williams to the punch of faking an injury in an effort to ‘slow’ down the St. Louis Rams no huddle offense. Not sure why that was needed because an 80 year-old using the lowest speed on a hover round could have kept up with the ‘speed’ of the St. Louis Rams offense.
The NY Giants did ultimately finish the game with a 28-16 win over the St. Louis Rams. I guess the old saying still holds true, if you aint cheating you aint trying?
I wonder if this is what Alicia Keys and Jay-Z had in mind when they wrote the lyrics to New York: Empire State of Mind?
Check out the I’ve fallen but can’t get up video here (notice the smirk on the Giants Defensive Coordinator at the end? Yeah, I caught you!):
Throughout my walk of life, I have crossed paths with many people that have been influential as well as taught me lessons that I will never forget. Out of all the people I have met, I have never regretted being in their presence whether the experience was good or bad. I have only learned from each experience and applied each learned lesson to future meetings and dealings with others.
Over the last few years, I can honestly say I have learned my biggest lessons of dealing with people in the social networking world. Most of you who know me personally, know that I have a weak spot for meeting and socializing with new people. I open up easily to everyone until I am given a reason to shut down. I try to help others flourish to their highest potential when the opportunity presents itself. Although I have had a few hiccups along the way, I truly feel that my new and thriving friendships generated from social networking have really given me life experiences that I would not have experienced in my daily walk of non-cyber space life. As a result of my cyber meetings, I have been on two blogtalk radio shows as well as met a few of my virtual friends personally, turning my cyber family into something truly tangible.
One thing that has burdened me since being a part of the social networking scene is I’ve seen more times often than not that the black community seems to always lack support for each other. With any social circle, there are certain cliques that form which is understandable. And people within that clique seem to be more willing to help each other than those considered ‘outsiders’. However, when it comes to trying to do something better and positive in the world, I don’t understand why my community is ALWAYS the one that would rather tear each other down instead of lift each other up. We kill our own entrepreneurships before they can even get started because of our lack of support among each other. I see other races come together and start a business and in a matter of months it becomes very successful. But, MY people, we stay pulling each other down like crabs in a bucket. Some of us get to a certain point in our lives where we think that others are trying to ‘take’ what we have instead of looking at people in need as an asset to something we are trying to grow. As long as we are growing together, we are and will continue to be successful at this thing called life. There’s more power in NUMBERS and less power in the number ONE when it comes to building a supporting network. Doesn’t it make sense to pour money into our own communities and be in a financial position to give our familiar faces jobs instead of waiting on the government to generate jobs for us?
Although it saddens me to stereotype my race in such a negative light, I felt the need to share my thoughts on this topic because of some recent experiences I have had. The lack of support in the black community started well before my time and will continue to take place well after I have left this earth. The only thing I can do is make sure I don’t fall into the trap of not offering my support when I can and surrounding myself around family and friends that do the same.
My challenge to anyone reading this: If you ever have the opportunity to help someone in need, please do it without hesitation and expectation that there should be something in return for your kind act. Trust me, the universe recognizes all that you do good in this world and karma will reward you accordingly!
Y’all know Dee love the kids. Especially the ones that belong to other people! While reading through the AJC paper over breakfast, I discovered one of the most amazing kids I’ve seen in awhile with a mission as strong as Michelle Obama’s, Mr. CJ Senter! His mission, to get his peers off the couch and outside working out!
Doing a quick Google Search, I discovered that Mr. CJ has been rather busy over the last year. From making an appearance in Rapper Young Joc’s videos to hanging out on the Monique Show. He was also featured in a CNN interview with Richelle Carey. His passion to be fit is something that folks are noticing and sharing with anyone who is willing to listen!
The youngster apparently was sidelined by an injury during his young football career. However, his desire to work out was not curtailed and he begin to do various exercises to maintain his lean physique. This passion ultimately led him to create a workout DVD and his own website, WorkoutKid.com.
Check out his interview on the CBS Atlanta news morning show:
Kudos to the workout kid as well as his parents. I’d say he has definitely mastered the art of a healthy lifestyle that most adults are struggling daily to find! He is also sending a powerful message to his peers who are consumed with a lifestyle of video-gaming and online chatting!
Side-Note: I wonder what he’d charge to train a 30-something female to get back to her high-school skinny physique? Let me send an email inquiry for my FRIEND. Lord knows she needs it! 🙂
Being a football fanatic, it boggles my mind how some people really have no interest in the sport. I mean I am a heterosexual female, married with child and I almost passed out when the NFL Lockout was threatening this 2011-2012 season. But, I am a Diva at heart and I do understand how some of my other Divas have no interest in the GREATEST GAME on earth.
With that being said and knowing that the NFL Official season kicks off tomorrow, SEPTEMBER 8, 2011, I felt it was my responsibility to give the ladies who hate the sport and feel a bit neglected while their boos are watching the game some useful tips.
Go Ahead, get your divalicious stationary ready and take notes…I’ll Wait!
There are a few ways you can handle your boo’s attention while his favorite team is playing. Try these Football Rules and let me know how they work for ya!
- You can be the Coach AKA NAG…you may wanna avoid this! Especially, if his team is losing!
- You can be his teammate…giving him a little slap on his butt every time his team makes a great play!
- You can be the watergirl…give ya man a nice cold one during time-outs and halftime. This could definitely turn out to be a positive for you later! *ahem* Liquid Viagra (hint, hint…)
- You can be the cheerleader! With the right cheerleading uniform, a good pre-game & halftime show can work out in your favor! He may even decide to skip the 2nd half and catch the highlights on ESPN! Guess who’s winning then…. 😉 😉
- You can start your own one-player lingerie football league! Grab you an outfit like the ladies in the photo and ‘try it on’ every time the game starts up. But be careful with this! You are a one-woman team so if he suggests adding more players, grab an adult DVD pop it in and tell him to enjoy! No Tiger Woods…. 😉
I hope the above tips help you to tolerate football season! Hey, it’s not going anywhere so you may as well make the best out of the next 6 months! Remember, if you can’t beat ’em, join ’em!
PSA: LADIES, please make sure you become familiar with the NFL theme music so you know when you should get in your proper position….listen and learn!