While enjoying a nice but eerily quiet commute on Friday the 13th, I subjected myself to listen to The Tom Joyner Morning Show. I normally opt for gospel to avoid losing my religion in traffic but being that it’s Friday the 13th, I decided to try something a little different.
Well lo and behold different is what I got while listening to the Jacque Reid Segment on TJMS. She enlightened me to a blog posting done by Mrs. Christelyn D. Karazin entitled Why Doesn’t the Black Community Value Marriage? Being a 17 1/2 year marriage veteran who also happens to be a black female, I immediately scoffed at the ideals being explained in this report. I felt unfairly attacked and completely amazed that someone could actually put a sentence together to explain these ignorant views.
I’m not sure who Mrs. Karazin is friends with, but I am surrounded by nothing but positive black couples who have happy healthy relationships contradicting her ideology that the Black Community actually DOES value Marriage. And I would like to think that my choice in friends is the norm for people of my ethnicity and background. A wise person always told me, your friends are a perfect reflection of you. Which is why I have found myself surrounded by nothing but positive loving people who are in committed relationships or may be pursuing a committed relationship in the future.
There’s nothing Mrs. Karzian can explain to me in her blog post that will ever convince me that the black community doesn’t value marriage. Being products of ancestors who were slaved and fought hard to get married, the thought of this idea is absolutely absurd to me. No I’m not naïve enough to believe that there are some people out there who absolutely don’t believe in marriage. But anyone who believes that this is a belief mostly plaguing the black community is as naïve as a child who believes Santa Clause can fit his hearty butt down a chimney!
Based on the content in Mrs. Karazin’s blog posting, she seems to be confusing single mothers with people who don’t want to get married.
Newsflash: Everyone who gets pregnant from a man does not want to marry that man.
Does that mean that black women have lost the value of marriage because they chose not to marry their baby’s father? Not from where I’m standing.
But hey, I’m just a happily married black woman looking forward to growing old with my husband and enjoying life as a couple for as long as God intends me to. Don’t mind me….
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